I believe the greatest heartache as a parent that loves the Lord, is when our children fall out of relationship with the Lord.
We raised them as God has called us to, we prayed for them consistently, and we stayed in a hearts posture of trusting the word of God concerning our children. But somehow they still drifted away.
After all the praying with them, bringing them to church weekly and leading them with integrity, there is the possibility of them making a decision to no longer serve Christ. Even as I type that last sentence my heart breaks for all the mamas out there who have this struggle because I know how you feel.
We can blame shift or debate on reasons why they chose to walk away but as we know, as easily as they left they can come back. The most important thing is that we don’t give up on them. This is the time that we continue to pray for our lost or prodigal children diligently and prepare for their return.
“When he finally came to his senses, he said to himself, ‘At home even the hired servants have food enough to spare, and here I am dying of hunger! I will go home to my father and say, “Father, I have sinned against both heaven and you,”
Here are some ways to stay consistent in prayer and prepare your hearts for your prodigal children to return:
1. Pray daily and at a specific time
“be unceasing and persistent in prayer;”
Prayer is essential to seeking God in hard times and praying for our children. So if you are struggling with consistency, set an alarm to wake up a little earlier so that you don’t run into obstacles when it’s time to pray.
As busy women we tend to struggle with not having enough time to pray because we are trying to fit prayer into our already busy schedules. When we make prayer a task, it becomes just that, something else to add to our to do list.
Prayer should be an honor and not a task. So planning accordingly is so important, we are not only meeting the Father consistently, we have uninterrupted time to bask in His presence and break strongholds off of our families because we chose to seek God daily and strategically.
2. Be strategic
Write down their struggles.
Write down their goals and dreams.
Write down their needs.
Write down anything that they would need prayer for and find a scripture that lines up with that.
Then pray for them daily.
Here is an example:
~Struggle (Write down the struggle) Example: Not serving God consistently
~Scriptures (Find scriptures that speaks to the struggle mentioned)
“If anyone serves Me, he must [continue to faithfully] follow Me [without hesitation, holding steadfastly to Me, conforming to My example in living and, if need be, suffering or perhaps dying because of faith in Me]; and wherever I am [in heaven’s glory], there will My servant be also. If anyone serves Me, the Father will honor him.”John 12:26 AMP
“Serve the LORD with gladness; Come before His presence with singing.”Psalms 100:2 NKJV
~Pray the scriptures (Add the persons name to the scripture as you pray)
Lord, I pray for ___________, I have noticed that she/he has not been serving you consistently. I pray that ____________ will continue to faithfully follow you without hesitation, holding steadfastly to You, conforming to Your example so the Father will honor her/him. I thank you that _________ will serve you Lord with gladness and come into your presence with singing all the days of her/his life.
In Jesus name, Amen
3. Love them and forgive them no matter what.
“So, as God’s own chosen people, who are holy [set apart, sanctified for His purpose] and well-beloved [by God Himself], put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience [which has the power to endure whatever injustice or unpleasantness comes, with good temper]; bearing graciously with one another, and willingly forgiving each other if one has a cause for complaint against another; just as the Lord has forgiven you, so should you forgive. Beyond all these things put on and wrap yourselves in [unselfish] love, which is the perfect bond of unity [for everything is bound together in agreement when each one seeks the best for others].”
A Prayer to Pray For Prodigal Children
Lord I thank you for being a wonderful loving Father, I thank you for being King of Kings and Lord of Lords in our lives.
I come to you today thanking you for blessing us with children, they are an amazing gift.
I thank you for helping us to lead them and guide them as you have called us to.
We have an amazing opportunity to lead our children to righteousness and wholeness and I pray that we would lead them according to your perfect will for their lives.
I pray that you would help us to be intentional in leading our children, always using wisdom when speaking to them so that we won’t be stumbling blocks to them.
I pray that we would seek you first so that we may be the leader in our homes that you called us to be. Allow us to be women of influence in our children’s lives. Help us to be women who our children trust so that when we speak wisdom or correction in their lives they will know that it comes from a place of love.
Help us to always speak positively over our children and never negatively because words have enough power to change lives. I pray that we would use our influence and leadership to groom our children into the women and men that God has called them to be.
I pray that we would lead our children in such a way that they would raise up and call us blessed. I thank you that our work of leading and training our children is not done in vain, I pray that we will receive the fruit of our labor in due time.
I pray for our adult children, that they would use wisdom daily, that the prodigals will return to you and that we would be prepared to receive them in whatever way they need us to.
I pray that they would seek you first and trust you with their whole hearts and minds and lean not to their own understanding and in all their ways they will acknowledge you so that you may direct their paths.
I pray that we would learn to forgive them and love them even if they are far away from you Lord, just as you have always loved us and forgave us.
I pray that you would continue to watch over our children, I plead the blood of Jesus over their lives and I thank you that no weapon formed against them shall prosper. Father equip us and empower us to lead our children well everyday of our lives.
Darnita Young is a busy wife, mother, Vision Mentor, Blogger and Mompreneur. Her mission is to empower busy women with the tools that will catapult their lives to the next level. Through teaching women to seek God in a practical way, she stirs up their inner ability to manifest their dream lives, the life that God has in store for them.
Darnita is passionate about sharing the love of Christ, giving practical tips to seek God in a greater way as seen on her blog www.pleadingmom.com and sharing how God honors vision through Vision Board Workshops. She is an inspiration to her family, an encourager of women, and serves on the Altar Ministry and Care Ministry at Celebration Church in Jacksonville, FL.
She is truly confident that prayer is the most important resource to reach God and when we seek Him diligently, we will find Him and when we find Him, we find His vision for our lives. Grab your free Busy Mom Prayer Toolkit here.