Be The Friend That Will Be Your Friend.
Recently I have been thinking about friendships. In certain seasons of life, it seems we can have friends but can still feel lonely. Our nature is wired around the sense of meaningful relationships.
Science indicates that good friendships are healthy for us. But most times to foster new friendships, you must make the choice to be that life-long friend. By learning what qualities contribute to deeper friendships, you can become that kind of friend with 7 simple and practical steps. Try these steps with Christian friendship quotes included.
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7 Steps to Be a Life-Long Friend (With Christian Friendship Quotes Included!)
Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light. -Helen Keller
Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character. 1 Corinthians 15:33
1. Be you.
Have you had that friend who after time, discovered was a fraud? Maybe the friendship was all one-sided. I think we all have encountered that. When you try to be someone you are not.
I do not see the point of trying to be a duplicate of someone else. Be yourself despite your imperfections. When friendships are honest, you will view each other’s strengths and flaws. And gain the ability to brace situations with humility and in time and confidence, you can be real and feel comfortable in any circumstance and setting around each other.
Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘You too? I thought I was the only one. – C.S Lewis
A true friend loves at all times. Proverbs 17:17
2. Be authentic
Excuses are something that even the nicest people make. Particularly when they take on too much. Or do not know how to say now. It is better to keep a promise than break one. Or say you will do something but not deliver because life is chaotic with work and home and so much to fit in between.
Personally, I would rather have a friend who was truthful than not. It might be tough at the time when someone pinpoints your actions or calls you out in a moment of truth. Tough love in friendships can be hard but you will always remember the wounds inflicted by a faithful friend.
A true friend is the greatest of all blessings. – Francois de La Rochefoucauld
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace. 1 Peter 4:8-10
3. Be interested
Are you familiar with those moments where you are listening but you not really listening? We are all guilty of this.
Sometimes having no distractions and making time for active listening proves how good a fried you are. No texting or browsing on your phone. But listening while they talk through their problems and emotions. A best friend will be genuinely interested, have your back and say the right thing at the right time.
Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer. – Ed Cunningham
A sweet friendship refreshes the soul. Proverbs 27:9
4. Be generous
Time is what we do not have a lot of. So, making every moment count matters. And treating the times you share as precious. Means when you make time for friendships. You are in fact saying, I am being generous with the amount of effort and resources I am willing to put into making time for each other. When it feels unbalanced it can be a losing battle. But when it is reciprocated, it is such a beautiful thing.
God has a bigger vision for our friendships than we even can begin to understand. – Angela A Sackett
One who forgives an affront fosters friendship, but one who dwells on disputes will alienate a friend. Proverbs 17:9
5. Be loyal
There are two aspects to loyalty. When you can accept each other even when you make mistakes. Through phases of encountering highs and lows. But, still have the ability to mourn and celebrate through every season of life. Someone who knows what makes you happy and can make you smile.
The second is, how many times have you revealed secretive truths only to find that someone you thought you could trust had shared this with others and everyone was talking about you. A true friend sticks closer than a brother. And having those friendships where you can confide in someone and know what you have shared with them is just between the two of you is an exceptional quality.
The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. – Elisabeth Foley
As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17
6. Be uplifting
Some days we find we need someone who understands our wiring as women. A true friend seems to understand that. And can sit and listen. While you pour your heart out and sob. Always finding ways to encourage you.
This is especially hard when you are faced with your own struggles and you can share these moments together. Yet find ways to highlight the special moments of gratitude that you both can appreciate about in each storm. And be able to pick yourself up from feeling despair or despondency when life is pressing you down from every side.
If you go looking for a friend, you’re going to find they’re very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you’ll find them everywhere. – Zig Ziglar
Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labour. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
7. Be resolving
Conflict resolution is a huge hurdle in any friendship. Do you get over them or do find that misunderstandings and hurt feelings sometimes pull friendships apart? The important factor is helping each other grow strong through times of adversity. At one point in our lives we will all face this.
Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends leave footprints in your heart. – Eleanor Roosevelt
Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy. Proverbs 27:5-6
Genuine friends look out for each other. Especially if you feel your friend could be heading down a slippery slope of addiction, destructive relationships or in trouble. You would grasp the courage to lovingly and boldly speak out if you felt your friend was wandering in the direction of danger.
I lost a life long friend some years ago. And sadly, I have never found a replacement. Because some friendships are closer than sisters. Who have each other’s back. One day, I pray God will bring that friend into my own life. In the meantime, I hope that I am working on being the type of friend that I would like to have as a best friend.
Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much. Helen Keller
Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11
Do you have close friendships? What would you say are the tips that you have used to uplift and help each other grow in grace and love? Both towards a deeper walk with God and each other.
Which of these Christian quotes about friendship is your favorite?
Ava James lives in the UK and is the author of Inspired by HIS words. Her passions are worship and dance. Not forgetting writing which includes reflection, self-development, travel, beauty and poetry. Gained from her life experiences. Her published non-fiction e-books range from leadership to grief. Follow her on Twitter for more!
Tuesday 22nd of December 2020
This is such a great post about friendship! I love all the quotes!! Thanks for writing this.
Monday 21st of December 2020
My favorite quote: "If you go looking for a friend, you’re going to find they’re very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you’ll find them everywhere." – Zig Ziglar Great article and encouragement on the richness of friendship! Thank you!
Friday 18th of December 2020
I specifically like the sentence at the introductory part that says "be a friend that will be your friend". Thanks for these seven tips you shared, I believe I will be a better friend practicing them.
Friday 18th of December 2020
I love "Above all, earnestly love one another." But, this full post really spoke to me on a variety of levels today. Thank you.
Thursday 17th of December 2020
This is such an encouraging and uplifting post about friendships! I struggle to put my distractions away when meeting with a friend and sometimes let my cell phone steal the precious time we have together. Thanks for also sharing friendship quotes! The quote by Eleanor Roosevelt is my favorite.