What To Do When You Think, “I Feel Like God Doesn’t Care About Me”

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By Kristine Bolt
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“God doesn’t care about me.”

It’s your most closely guarded secret. “I feel like God doesn’t care about me. And sometimes, I feel like He’s completely abandoned me.”

It’s so secret that you probably haven’t fully admitted it to yourself.  Because it’s unsettling, right?

After all, aren’t you a bad Christian for feeling like God has abandoned you? And won’t He punish you for thinking that He doesn’t care about you?

Actually, He won’t. God already knows what’s in your heart. So the best thing you can do now is face and deal with it.

God doesn't care about me

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Why You Feel Like God Doesn’t Care About You

Life being what it is, just about everyone has experienced significant emotional pain or trauma. These are expected, though, because, well…life.

And while these expected hurts can test your faith, it’s the small, everyday pain that builds up and undermines your belief about God’s care for you.

So which of these reasons have you feeling abandoned by God?

1. Your Unanswered Prayers

Your overflowing prayer journals are a testament to your desperation. But what have you gotten from God in return?

Nothing. For years.

You’ve prayed every way you know. You’ve even begged God on your knees to solve your problems.

And He’s given you silence in return.

So you’ve concluded: “How can God care about me? If He did, my anguish would have touched His heart by now.”

Related: 7 Energy Restoring Bible Verses When You Feel Like Giving Up

2. You Feel Ordinary

In your desperation, you look up Bible verses about God’s love for you. And the first one that comes up is:

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 (ESV)

But it rings hollow in your heart. Because, yes, Jesus died for you. But He also died for the entire world.

In a crowd of over 7 billion people, you’re just one ordinary, indistinguishable face.

So how can God care about you, specifically?

Related: 10 Encouraging Bible Verses in Times of Struggle

3.You Feel That Your Problems Are Insignificant

Between global pandemics, famines, and man-made disasters, it sometimes feels like the world has gone crazy.

Compared to the suffering on your TV every day, how can God possibly care about your insignificant problems?

The job you hate, your relationship problems, your doubts about Him. Your stuff just doesn’t compare. In fact, you probably feel selfish praying about it.

So you conclude that God has bigger things to handle, and now you’re positive: “No, God definitely doesn’t care about me.”

Why Your Feelings Are Wrong

Maybe one or all of these reasons resonate. But you still hope you’re wrong, aren’t you?

Otherwise, you’d have given up praying by now.

But you keep crying out to God because you’re desperate to believe that He does care about you. No matter what your feelings say.

Good news: your feelings are lying. God loves you beyond measure, and He hasn’t abandoned you.

How do I know? Because the Bible says so. And Jesus Himself said that the Bible is God’s truth (John 17:17).

1. His Faithfulness

You’re not alone in feeling like God has abandoned you. David felt the same way.

My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, from the words of my groaning? O my God, I cry by day, but you do not answer, and by night, but I find no rest. Psalm 22:1-2 (ESV)

In fact, Jesus quoted this same verse on the cross.  And we know that God cared about David and Jesus immeasurably.

Just like He cares about you.

2. His Careful Attention

In psalm after psalm, David poured out his most negative and uncomfortable feelings. But he always went back to what God does.

For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. Psalm 139:13-14 (ESV)

With great care and attention, God handmade you. Just like He made every wonderful thing you see around you. You’re part of His amazing creation.

And because He carefully handmade you, you’re no ordinary woman. Even among 7 billion people.

3. His Thoughts

No matter how much you or anybody else in your life belittles your problems, they’re lying.

Your problems matter to God. Because you matter to Him.

How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them! If I would count them, they are more than the sand. I awake, and I am still with you. Psalm 139:17-18 (ESV)

Only someone who cares about you thinks about you nonstop. And God thinks countless thoughts about you.

What To Do When You Feel Like God Doesn’t Care About You

So now you’ve admitted that you feel like God doesn’t care about you. And you’ve seen where your feelings are lying to you. Feels good, right?

Be warned, though: your feelings will be back with their lies again.

So what can you do? Be ready with a plan to conquer your thought, “I feel like God doesn’t care about me.”

Tell Him About It

The first thing David did was to share his raw feelings with God. How awful it felt to think that God had abandoned him.

I am poured out like water, and all my bones are out of joint; my heart is like wax; it is melted within my breast; my strength is dried up like a potsherd, and my tongue sticks to my jaws; you lay me in the dust of death. Psalm 22:14-15

Wow. Wasn’t it bold of David to be so honest with God? And God didn’t condemn or punish him for it.

In fact, true relationship is built on a foundation of honesty and open communication. So David’s candid outpouring of his anguish over what felt like God’s lack of care probably even helped strengthen his relationship with God.

Remember What He’s Done

But David didn’t spend all of his prayer time in anguish. He also recalled what God did in the past.

Yet you are holy, enthroned on the praises of Israel. In you our fathers trusted; they trusted, and you delivered them. To you they cried and were rescued; in you they trusted and were not put to shame. Psalm 22:3-5 (ESV)

Right now, it feels like God’s been silent in your life for years. But in reality, you know He hasn’t.

So deliberately recall specific times when He’s come through for you.

The unexpected check in the mail. The job offer. The small, everyday miracles. Remember them.

Praise Him

Again, David didn’t stop at reminiscing about God’s past deeds. He also praised Him.

I will tell of your name to my brothers; in the midst of the congregation I will praise you: You who fear the Lord, praise him! All you offspring of Jacob, glorify him, and stand in awe of him, all you offspring of Israel! Psalm 22:22-23 (ESV)

So when you recall that check in the mail, job offer, and everyday miracle, praise God for them. Praise Him for who He is, for what He has done, and what for He will do.

God Cares About You

Wow! You admitted, “Lord, I feel like You don’t care about me.” Then you recalled proof that He does, and you’ve praised Him for it.

Your prayer journal suddenly feels a little different, doesn’t it?

Because now you know for sure that God hasn’t abandoned you. That He cares about you. Because He says so.

Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows. Luke 12:6-7 (ESV)

What Do You Do When You Feel Like God Doesn’t Care?

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  1. I’ve been feeling unnoticed by God lately. Not that he doesn’t care but that everything he asks me to do is just hard and seems like I’m barely treading water. I am grateful his word is true. He does care. He loves us and he is intricately involved in our lives. Thank you for reminding us of this in your post.

    1. That’s exactly the thing to do, Dawn. When we feel like He doesn’t care, like we don’t have His attention, we always have to go back to His word. It doesn’t lie and it tells us clearly that He loves us and values us immeasurably. Then we have to trust Him and His word more than we trust our fickle feelings. Hang in there and know that He’s got you!

  2. Such a needed article. I have heard variations of this feeling from many people:
    God doesn’t care about me.
    God is disappointed in me.
    God can never forgive me.
    I loved the point you made that your feelings are lying to you. I also loved how you didn’t encourage people to dismiss those feeling, instead take them to God with the full awareness of the truth of how much God cares about you.
    If I was to add anything to this wonderful advice, is to highlight the importance of the body of Christ in this process. Many can’t see God’s care, forgiveness, love until they experience it through the body. For me, I needed to confess these doubts to others to know that may feelings really were lying to me.
    Thank you for writing this. It can help so many people.

    1. Feelings do NOT lie. Pain is your body/mind screaming to you that something is wrong! I’m tired of believers dismissing my feelings as if they just don’t matter. The matter absolutely and completely.

  3. Idk. This just sounds like such a low bar for all-loving all-powerful God. What happened to actions speak louder than words? Why doesn’t he just listen and help? If you constantly asked a person for help and they constantly ignored you and just watched you suffer, would you say they care about you? I can think of him “not coming through” my entire life.

    1. Totally understandable. But God often answers our prayers and sends us a helping hand, and we ignore His help and answers because (1) they don’t look like what we expect them to; or (2) we don’t like the solutions He sends. Looking back on the times when I felt like He didn’t care about me, I’ve found these issues to be strongly at play.

    2. God uses our need to become his response Joseph, l pray you would know God’s peace as you continue to pray and draw closer to Him. He is listening and l know that in my own life God used unanswered prayer to help me trust Him more. Be strong in the power of God’s might and know He works everything for our good.

    3. Right on point! What would God think of us if we had somebody asking for our help and we ignored them. But it’s ok for God? Give me a break.

  4. I can tell you for a fact that he doesn’t care about me. I think God is a huge narcissist in the sky who picks and chooses who gets a good life and who does not. I used to believe, but not anymore. When you take a look at the world we are forced to live in, it’s hard to believe God even exists. How can I believe in a God who is so self important and arrogant to even show himself, and why should I?

  5. When I was working I feel like I had a purpose in life but now that I am retired I feel useless and I feel I’m just taking up space and not being productive. I’ve always felt that there was something God had in store for me, but I’ve never realized it beyond a shadow of a doubt. I’ve always felt that perhaps I missed it, perhaps I didn’t hear God, or perhaps I was in a sinful place and ignored God. I’ve always heard him when God was pushing me to do something specific and I would do it but it was just temporary because it didn’t last forever. Perhaps God just has a series of short-term “jobs” for me to do and nothing long-term, nothing worthwhile so I can feel I’m making a difference in the world. I read David’s pleas and all the times that God answered him, but quite truthfully I feel God had chosen David for big things, but I am not a David and I don’t feel I have anything big that God is chosen me to do so answering my questions is maybe not high on his priority list because there are others who have bigger problems. It’s hard to hang on and remember all the good but I know he has done a lot of good for me. I just don’t want to feel that I have outlived my usefullness in life. I still want to feel valued and useful and worthwhile.

    1. Hi, thank you so much for letting us know this. I want you to know that there is no such thing as outliving your usefulness in life. The fact that you are asking these things show how dedicated you are. The things that you think are “short term”- you will never know the ripple effect they had until you get to Heaven. I don’t think that anything is short-term or long-term for God. I think sometimes us humans try to define what is small and what is big, but God just wants us to show up and serve Him in anyway we can.

      I have a to do list hanging on the back of my board and it has only one thing on it: “How can I be bold for Christ today?” Maybe we can start praying that we wake up with the readiness to be bold and do some crazy things in His name.

      Have you ever read any of the books by Bob Goff? I may recommend that as a place to start. Feel free to email me at jessie@jessiesynan.com or DM us on the Pray With Confidence Facebook page so we can continue to pray over you and be there for you in any way possible.

  6. I think I was meant to read this. I know I’m asking God for all the wrong things. Maybe that’s why he won’t answer me. I sit in my car and say ‘why won’t you help me?’ But deep down, I know Im asking for what I want, and not what I need.

  7. God must show his caring through actions, not words. Promises have no value. God does not care about me and his lack of response to decades of prayer and the way He picks and chooses those who suffer and those who don’t is random and without justification. Literally everyone in my family has had the nearly perfect American dream life and mine has been decades of pain, suffering and disappointment. What did I do to deserve something so different than the rest of my family? That isn’t fairness in any understanding I have. I’ll believe God cares about me when He actually DOES something to demonstrate that He cares. Until then, I don’t believe it.

  8. God had blessed my life with so many things that I wanted before I was born again and excepted Jesus as my Savior. Why would he give so many blessings to someone and not give them what they need which was him. If he doesn’t want to show up himself or send an angel can he not send true Christians to guide them to him? God blessed me with a successful business and if he saw my heart he knew that I was a loving kind person. I planned to help the homeless the poor and needy as best I could. But he let me suffer a brutal attack which almost killed me and left me with traumatic brain injury. Since the evil that attacked me on that horrible day I have been plagued with anger and depression for decades. After being born again over 20 years ago, Jesus did start to bless me. He let me to some wonderful people but did not free me from anger and depression. As a result my life come out out of control again. I have great difficulty dealing with the fact that God came to Moses, a murderer, David also a murderer, and Saul who became Paul also a murderer and let them to amazing lives. I was never even a fighter and definitely not a murderer so I ask him God why did he not help me? I pray every day all day. Not just for me but for those I know who are sick and they need and I pray for people I don’t even know that the Lord would help them. Oh yes, I pray for me too. I pray for him to guide me and to lead me to do his will. To restore my ability to cry so that I can leave the sorrow behind. To come to my dreams and let me know he cares about me. But nothing. No crying no easing of anguish. I bring to him my contrite heart my crushed spirit all things his word says He will help me with I have waited a long time, years even. Nothing. I do remember when he did bless me even before I excepted Jesus and I have thanked him for that and I believe he exists. I just think that he does not care for me now.

    Please do not sell my email or give it to anybody as I already get too much spam thank you and God bless you.

  9. This was a thoughtful piece. That said I believe the uncomfortable truth is that if God does care, he is unable to help because it is man’s time and God is limited in what He can do currently. Hopefully in eternity His will is done as stated in Revelation.

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