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Scriptures About Rejection: 3 Stories You Need To Know

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“What‘s wrong with you? No other woman I know would ever do that.”

“All you’ve done is taught you patience. Otherwise, I couldn’t have dealt with you all this time.”

“I don’t even know why I love you anymore.”

The one I loved most in the world said these words to me repeatedly during the 10 years that we were together. Is it any wonder that by the time the relationship chewed me up and spat me out, my self-worth was a tattered mess?

You see, for most of that time in my life, I felt inadequate, because I couldn’t change enough to be worthy of his love. And since I didn’t feel loved for who I was, rejection was my constant companion.

On top of that, I spent a lot of time during the last years of that relationship crying out to God for help. But He seemed silent, and I took that to mean that maybe I wasn’t special to Him after all. So I ended up feeling like God had rejected me, too.

Worse still, while I was hurting, I was also hiding my feelings of rejection. So I didn’t give those who truly loved me the opportunity to speak scriptures for rejection over me when I needed it most.

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Scriptures About Rejection in The Bible For When You Feel Rejected

Maybe your feelings of rejection don’t come from your mate. Maybe it’s from a parent, sibling, or even your colleagues at work.

Or maybe, like I did, you’re struggling with feeling unheard and rejected by God.

Let’s start there. Because through my mess, I learned firsthand that God hears every prayer of your heart. And He always responds, even when it seems like He doesn’t.

Blessed be God, because he has not rejected my prayer or removed his steadfast love from me! Psalm 66:20 (CSB)

Don’t believe me? Then maybe you’ll identify with one of these 3 people from Scripture who others rejected. And see how God delivered them when they could have succumbed to feeling rejected by Him, too.

Rejection in the Bible: 3 People Who Were Rejected

If you feel rejected, you’re in good company. Many people in the Bible felt the same way at some point. So let’s see what helpful lessons we can learn about rejection from 3 of them.

1. Jesus Was Rejected

When those you care about you reject you, and you’re in pain over it, it’s easy to dismiss the fact that Jesus’s people rejected him, too.

He came to his own people, and even they rejected him. John 1:11 (NLT)

You can easily make the mistake of diminishing what Jesus went through. Because, you know, it’s Jesus. But the fact that He was rejected means He knows exactly how you feel.

“If the world hates you, understand that it hated me before it hated you.” John 15:18 (CSB)

In fact, Jesus even had to deal with this from His own family, who thought He was crazy when He just started His ministry.

When his family heard what was happening, they tried to take him away. “He’s out of his mind,” they said. Mark 3:21 (NLT)

Talk about feeling misunderstood and rejected. So what did Jesus do?

Then he began to teach them that it was necessary for the Son of Man to suffer many things and be rejected by the elders, chief priests, and scribes, be killed, and rise after three days. He spoke openly about this. Mark 8:31-32a (CSB)

Jesus recognized and acknowledged that He would be rejected. Then He wholeheartedly and relentlessly pursued and fulfilled God’s purpose for Him anyway.

Takeaway: Know ahead of time that everyone won’t love and accept you. And that’s OK because Jesus loves and accepts you. Then keep doing what God called you to do, anyway.

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2. Joseph Was Rejected

And speaking of family rejection, is there a better example in Scripture than Joseph’s story? It starts in Genesis 37 with jealousy and a dream.

In fact, Joseph’s brothers hated him so much that they plotted to kill him. Talk about family rejection.

Come now, let us kill him and throw him into one of the pits. Then we will say that a fierce animal has devoured him, and we will see what will become of his dreams. Genesis 37:20 (ESV)

Thankfully, relatively better sense prevailed and they ended up selling him into slavery in Egypt instead.

Unfortunately, Joseph spent the next several years as a slave, then in prison after he was falsely accused of a crime. He was rejected again, this time by the master who he had served faithfully.

And Joseph’s master took him and put him into the prison, the place where the king’s prisoners were confined, and he was there in prison. Genesis 39:20 (ESV)

But do you know who didn’t reject or abandon Joseph?

But the Lord was with Joseph in the prison and showed him his faithful love. And the Lord made Joseph a favorite with the prison warden. Genesis 39:21 (NLT)

Takeaway: Your circumstances don’t have to dictate your feelings or your actions. You can choose to be faithful and do your best, despite rejection.

The warden had no more worries, because Joseph took care of everything. The Lord was with him and caused everything he did to succeed. Genesis 39:23 (NLT)

3. Hagar Was Rejected

Not to kick you when you’re down. But sometimes, people may reject you because of your own behavior. Please don’t feel condemned, because we’ve all been there.

Hagar was there, too. Her story starts in Genesis 16 when her mistress, Sarai, got the brilliant idea of forcing God’s plan for a late-in-life-heir for her husband, Abram. You can see the train wreck coming from a mile away.

And he went in to Hagar, and she conceived. And when she saw that she had conceived, she looked with contempt on her mistress. Genesis 16:4 (ESV)

Hagar’s new position as baby momma went to her head, so she started overstepping her boundaries. And Sarai wasn’t having it, so she mistreated Hagar.

Apparently it got so bad — or Hagar had a tantrum, we don’t know for sure — that pregnant Hagar ran off into the wilderness. Which is where God came to her, when she was feeling rejected, and alone.

The angel of the Lord found Hagar beside a spring of water in the wilderness, along the road to Shur. Genesis 16:7 (NLT)

Now, if you were Hagar, wouldn’t you be ready to hear how your nemesis is an idiot for not seeing how amazing you are? But that’s not at all what the angel said. Not even close.

The angel of the Lord said to her, “Return to your mistress, and submit to her authority.” Genesis 16:9 (NLT)

Wait, what? No, “You go, girl, you’ve got this!”?

See, even in the middle of feeling rejected, that wasn’t what Hagar needed. She’d behaved badly, then compounded that by making a bad decision to run away. No, Hagar didn’t need a pep talk; she needed to hear the truth. Which was basically that she should do the right thing and behave herself. Despite her less than ideal circumstances.

Takeaway: Even when you’re feeling rejected, God will always tell you the truth in love. What you do with that truth is up to you.

As for Hagar, she came to her senses and returned to where she belonged. But she always remembered that God had her back her when she felt rejected.

Thereafter, Hagar used another name to refer to the Lord, who had spoken to her. She said, “You are the God who sees me.” She also said, “Have I truly seen the One who sees me?” Genesis 16:13 (NLT)
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The Scriptures Are Your Prescription For Rejection

As much as I was going to church during the time when I felt most rejected, I didn’t truly understand God’s word. Because I was so caught up in my circumstances and my feelings that I didn’t allow the Scriptures to heal my rejection.

You don’t have to make that mistake. You can decide right now to open your heart to the truth of God’s word. No matter who has rejected you and no matter how you want to feel about their actions.

Because in His word is where you’ll find unconditional love and acceptance. And you never have to feel rejected again.

 

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  1. The story of Hagar is actually one of my favorite Bible stories. I read it at the exact time I needed to a few years ago, and God really used it to encourage me when I had deep feelings of rejection. I also read a passage in Psalms today where David continued to place his assurance in God and was brought through a season of rejection. Thank you for posting this!

    1. You’re very welcome. And I’m so happy that you’ve come through that difficult season. Bet you’re a stronger woman for having come through it! <3

  2. It is so important that we learn and know the scriptures about rejection to be able fight off the enemy’s lies. And be able to comfort ourselves with the truth of God’s love no matter how anyone else treats us! Great post!
    Blessings! 💗

    1. Amen, sister! The key is knowing these scriptures ahead of time, and/or knowing to search the scriptures for God’s truth and comfort while we’re going through it. And you’re very welcome 🙂

  3. Hi! Thank you so much for sharing your story so candidly. I am grateful beyond words that Jesus, my Savior, knows the feeling of rejection. But although He knows this feeling, He still accepts us perfectly!

    1. You’re so very welcome. It’s my privilege and passion to share my story so that other women who are going through similar situations know that they’re not alone, and that God sees, knows and loves them. No matter what’s happening.

    1. You’re very welcome! And you’re 100% right; rejection wounds are some of the hardest to heal. But God’s unfailing love is exactly what we need to heal from those wounds and to forgive the ones who deliver them.

  4. These are really good Scriptures on rejection to help anyone struggling with this. The enemy keeps us in doubt but l am so grateful God voice deafens any lie. Thanks for sharing!

    1. You’re welcome! 🙂 You’re so right about the enemy and his lies. The important thing is for us to stay alert and recognize that he’s whispering those lies in our ears. Then defeat those lies with God’s word of truth.

      1. This is a very well made piece, may the LORD bless you in your gifts so that you may continue to encourage others. I was rejected by my mother since I was a child. I grew up very sensitive and attempted suicide several times because I felt misunderstood and hated. I didn’t know God was there with me. I was a timid child, very gentle and caring. After many things and alot of pain, i learned how to pray and read scriptures through the Holy Ghost. I have been walking in miracles since then for 2 years now. The LORD made a way for me through giving me an apartment so that I could move away from a very mentally and emotionally troubled home and find peace with Him. I came to know my identity in Christ and who I am to the King of the universe. So even when I’m alone, I don’t feel lonely, I feel the peace and joy of my heavenly Father. I realized that I don’t exactly fit in if at all, not even with my own family and it’s because I belong to the LORD, anointed to use my talents for His glory. May the LORD bless you all. ❤️

        1. Mercy, thank you for so bravely sharing your testimony of overcoming (and continuing to overcome!) rejection. To see your family’s rejection as a sign of your anointing by God is truly an inspired perspective. Bless you for sharing this.

  5. “No, Hagar didn’t need a pep talk; she needed to hear the truth.”

    Thank you for this. When we submit in obedience to God, the outcome is always glorious. That might either mean speaking boldly (in love) to someone we felt led to communicate something to, or, in humility, accepting that we need to change ourselves. This was a powerful and much-needed reminder.

  6. Rejection is such a huge thing and can leave such scars. I love knowing that Jesus understands how we feel. I remember when Lysa TerKeurst said that we should see rejection by other people as God’s protection for us. ❤

  7. I have felt the sting of rejection more times than I’d like to admit. The fact that Jesus faced rejection and identifies with my pain brings comfort and strength.

    1. So often we go through stuff and it never occurs to us that Jesus *really* gets it at a gut level. I’m so happy that He did and that it helps you overcome your battle with rejection <3

  8. This was so very good. I have struggled with rejection a lot in my life. It’s always helpful to remember that Jesus was rejected and He knows what we are going through. Blessings, Joni

  9. These are great examples of rejection we can relate too. We sometimes forget about others and how they were rejected by men and God loved them and saw their plan.

    1. Yes, when we’re going a painful time, we can feel isolated. It always helps to remember that we’re not alone. Not only because others have similar experiences, but also because God is always there with a God-sized hug and all the love and acceptance we’ll ever need.

  10. When it comes to feeling rejected, there is always the sense of feeling betrayed and abandoned. Growing up, I felt rejected by my own family, members of my faith based community (grew up LDS-Mormon). Later in life, I felt the sting of rejection and abandonment when I was alienated from my (now grown) children. Not a lot of men discuss their sense of rejection and abandonment. In the course of my life, I have encountered many men who have experienced rejection and abandonment. Most of them have unfortunately lost their way and given up on God. Simply because they have felt that God had given up on them.

    Rejection and abandonment fuels the nasty bitterness and resentment toward others and we become frozen in our own anger. We carry that with us and into other relationships. Unresolved rejection, abandonment, resentment, grief, loss, and bitterness sets us up for unhealthy relationships.

    Thank you for sharing these scripture stories and insights.

    1. Well said. Processing our own feelings of rejection also means forgiving those who’ve rejected us. It’s the only way to heal properly and move forward with true peace, joy and love.

  11. I’ll be honest, I really struggle with Hagarss rejection. It seems so unfair and so much hurt and confusion and chaos came from it (well I guess most of that came before her rejection but still…). I wanted her story to have a fairytale ending and it breaks my heart that it doesn’t. But still God is good. And he was with her. She did not go unseen.

    1. I think that’s actually what makes the Bible so brilliant and applicable to our lives. That it’s NOT a fairy tale, that stuff happens that we’d rather not, and that God helps us face and overcome it. And in the end, we STILL get a fairy tale ending because we’ll live happily ever after…for real this time 😊

  12. Oh. I have relied on scripture many times when working through rejection. In scripture I have been able to heal and even see purpose in the rejection.

  13. Kris–Thanks for sharing your story and being so open with us. My mom has dealt with rejection from her childhood and has carried it with her ever since. It is such a hard thing to let go of. Many on here said they like the story of Hagar–I do love the line about the “God who sees.” Even when we feel rejected, God sees us. Even though I like Hagar, I have always loved the story of Joseph and how what his brother meant for evil, God meant for good. Through Joseph, a nation and other nations around them made it through a drought. Such a great story of our God of justice and making good from a bad situation! Blessings on you Kris for sharing your heart! Cindy

    1. I love Joseph’s story, too, Cindy. I always wonder at his attitude through all the rejections and resulting hardships he endured. And don’t you just marvel at his determination to be excellent even in the middle of his circumstances and being repeatedly rejected? And, yes, isn’t it amazing how God used Joseph’s family rejection to save nations? That’s our mind-blowing God. Makes you thing…what can He do with my rejection if I remain steadfast and excellent through it?

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